My Wife is Conservative but there are Signs

Hello,

Hi, I'm mid-30s guy with late-20s wife. I wish my wife becomes a hotwife but she doesn't know that I wish that.

I will write down all the background and hope to get some insight from doing that and sharing it. And I hope to keep posting progress as I try new things going with my wife.

She's pretty conservative. It took me so long time until she's convinced to use a vibrator. I bought a dildo and it didn't work. She thinks it's unnatural and too artificial. She enjoys sex whenever we have but we don't do it often. Like twice a month? She's kind of always too tired to do that.

I'm her first date at all and I'm the only guy she has slept with.

She's not an extrovert. She likes staying home. Even when she's out, she likes to hang out by herself. She doesn't look at her phone much which means she usually don't talk much with her friends on whatsapp.

We don't meet new friends much. Whenever she rarely meets new people somehow and have a meal together l, she feels uncomfortable. This normally doesn't happen much.

She's uncomfortable with social media. She had a bad experience long time ago. She's always too cautious before posting anything on her social media account. Almost never posts her selfies. We posted pictures once (I'll post them here too) and it was a good experience but she was shy again afterwards.

She's not confident with her body. When I say her body is so hot, she thinks it's because I'm her husband. Several years ago she allowed me taking nude pictures of her (not frequently though), now not any more. I tried to take artistic nude pictures (which I failed due to lack of skill). I told her how she's sexy on the photos. I persuaded her to create an account on a dating site for fun and post her photos without her face but she was too worried about it and it never happened.

She doesn't drink alcohol much. She's got low tolerance. So she drinks up to one glass all the time.

She's even embarrassed with wearing sleeveless top because her bra can be seen. These days I'm working on letting her feel okay with that little exposures since it was a hot summer this year. We recently bought one and she wore it. She was so embarrassed but it will be better I guess.

She's willing to buy and wear more since it's much cooler than a normal top. I'm trying to convincing her the exposure is okay and everyone does that. Her mother was part Asian (she's like 1/4 or less but it doesn't show) and so conservative and we live in one of the European countries. She's not used to the exposure. And we find so many women wearing loose top which reveals their bra and even some of the breasts. So I'm slowly trying to convince her to do so.

We love massages. Before Europe, we frequently went for massages. I tried to find a parlor where there're male masseurs. I thought it could help my wife get used to strange guy's touch no-sexually first. Then later maybe sexual touch. But I couldn't find a nonsexual parlor with male masseur where they give oil massage.

I searched for outcall massage by male massuer but I gave it up because I had no rationale to convince her to go for it because she was already satisfied with female masseuse at the parlors we went.

I don't want to tell her "I want you to have sex with another guy" right away. I want her to be open more and more and I'm okay with saying that words like years later from now on. I want to proceed this slowly, making sure she feels okay with whatever I try. I don't want to force her.

For now, as I said, wearing loose top is a current "mission" I'm trying on her. I guess it will take this whole year until she wears a top which reveals some of her breasts.

She did have sex with me 2 days ago and I asked her if she wanted a big dildo inside her and she said no but she got very wet and came very fast, before me. So I asked her again and she said no but she kept cumming and she didn't mind me asking even though she said no so we did that for the whole time and she was tired after all the orgasms.

She's interested in going to a nude beach but it's just because she wants to swim without clothes, not because she wants to be naked or see others being naked. Anyway I'm aiming to go a nude beach maybe soon. For now she says "yes" about the nude beach but I think she said only for swimming so she doesn't have to admit that maybe she likes if men see her on the beach.

We will see how this goes and I will update it it goes well.

I will add if I can think of anything more.

Thanks for reading this and please enjoy my wife!

Sann & Anna